People

Something I've been thinking about lately is how I tend to value people based on who they know or who they're friends with. I have realized how stupid it is. Just because someone has clicked or not clicked with certain people does not make them any better or worse. Just because 400 people wish them a happy birthday on Facebook doesn't mean they're cool or even nice. They could be terribly unpleasant, and just have lots of charisma. I don't care if you have truckloads of charisma, if you are selfish and mean I don't want to be around you. If you have 4000 friends I still won't want to be around you. Yet it seems some of the most manipulative (in a bad way) people have the most influence and friends, etc., just because they are annoyingly outgoing, have charisma to know how to get people to initially like them, and all the crap that goes along with that. And then there are the few who don't have many friends because they don't have that charisma, but they're smart and they are pure-hearted. They are kind, they care, they just don't need the attention and don't try to bring it to themselves. And yet I still think, oh this person must be cool because they're friends with so-and-so, or they aren't because they aren't friends with so-and-so.
That's pretty dumb.
I can't judge someone because they have a lot of friends or are friends with certain people. I know crappy people who fit into both of those categories. So how do I find out if someone is amazing? I guess I'll just have to get to know them myself. I don't believe any of the crap people tell me anymore.