I took this photo yesterday while on a hike. And this is how I felt:
The difference between you and me is like the difference between a rock and a tree. I live, I grow, I die. You never gave a breath to life.
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Saturday, February 15, 2014
Self-esteem, Eckhart Tolle
I found this at another website, it's a transcript of Eckhart Tolle at a retreat in India. I thought it was fascinating.
Self-Esteem (Day 3 India Retreat, The Power of Not Knowing)
The following transcription is a partial excerpt from Eckhart's talk on day 3 of the India Retreat in 2002.
Question: By dissolving the ego, won’t I be dissolving my self-esteem. Do I not need self-esteem to love myself and others?
Eckhart: Yes, self-esteem. Many people seem to have a problem with that - lack of self-esteem.
I read a while ago, when the Dalai Lama was younger he was meeting with a group of Westerners and they were talking about lack of self-esteem, and he just couldn’t understand that, what that was. And they tried to explain it, and then he went around the group and asked everybody, “do you have that?” And most people said, “Yes.” [And the Dalai Lama said,] “Oh, very strange, self-esteem”.
Now the human species is the only species on the planet, of course, that has a relationship with itself. Where [when] you have a relationship with yourself - that’s normal. But the cat doesn’t have a relationship with itself. Or the bird doesn’t have a relationship with itself. Or the tree doesn’t. So, birds, cats, trees, monkeys, flowers none of them have a problem with self-esteem. And even the most ugly looking cat wouldn’t have a problem with self-esteem. It hasn’t created a secondary, an “image self” - mind created. And once that’s created it walks with you, next to you, or behind you, or wherever it is. You always walk with a mental image of “me” and you have a relationship with that. And, often you don’t like what you see. That “image-self.”
That’s poor self-esteem. And then you may be in conflict with it. You may be talking to your self in the head. Telling your self something about yourself. Some people talk to themselves in the first person, buy many more people talk to themselves in the second person, as “you”. [For example:] “You see.” “You failed again.” “You see, you’re not as good as…” “You see, you...” “Why can’t you...?”
And then at times, the self feels suddenly great about itself. Some people predominately have low self-esteem, in other words, feel bad about the mind made image “me” [“little me”], feel bad about that. And then realize that, some realization comes in when they realize it is mind created. And they realize, and usually in the West, it’s connected with New Age teachings, and they realize they can do something about their bad self-esteem, their image. You can actually change your thinking about yourself.
First you discover that the thinking about yourself is predominately, or to a large extent, negative and then you see a little bit of Presence is arising. It must be, because you’re able to stand back a little bit and watch and see what you’re creating with your thoughts. And then the possibility comes of changing your thoughts and self-esteem - through workshops, affirmations, visualization, and all those practices. And then after awhile that image looks a little bit more [enhanced], and you feel more comfortable with that thing walking along side you.
But since everything in form, all mind creations, thoughts are subject to polarities, you can’t walk with a high [sense of self] continuously, with high self-esteem and feel great about your self, there’s always a polarity to it, and its usually bound up with what happens or not-happens in your life, what feedback you’re getting from others. And it is usually comparative, the self-esteem is comparative.
[You ask yourself] How do I rate myself in relation to others? And that gives you an indication where you are on 1 to 10, or whatever it may be. So, self-esteem is connected with the mind made “me”, lack of it, or in good self-esteem [the enhancement of it]. But it exists in polarities: if you spend a whole year affirming continuously, “I love myself, I love myself”, and maybe until now you hated yourself. Your house is full of little stickers, and wherever you look you see, “I love myself”, and you look in a mirror and look into your eyes and repeat that, “I love myself.”
To some extent it works, to some extent. You have a better relationship with your self. But there’s always a down side. It’s hard to sustain that, because the other polarity will manifest also in your life. And you go through life, when in order to know how you feel about yourself, you need to compare yourself with others. And then you say, “Oh, I’m actually better looking that this person, and so I feel quite good about myself.” “I’m actually much more educated that that person, and I feel good about that.” Or whatever you can get. “Well, this person is ill and I’m healthy, so that’s good.”
[What] you need for self-esteem, if you look, you need relativity. So you need comparison. And ego is always comparing itself.
Is it possible to live without having a relationship with yourself, neither good nor bad? It is possible to be so completely your self that the mind made image of me, dissolves?
And yes, this is why we’re here [at the retreat in India, or reading his book, or reading this]. This is the essence of our gathering. The mind made image is connected to thought, to continuous thinking. It’s fueled by, perpetuated by, upheld by the continuous thought processes many of which are about “me”, and my “self.” And so through thought I have a relationship with a thought made entity, which sometimes feels quite comfortable and sometimes feels not pleasant, I don’t want to live with that person. And of course, it’s true, many people live with a self that is very unpleasant, that creates a lot of problems, a lot of suffering, that continuously criticizes them, that continuously blames them, that tells them they’re not [good] enough. And they live with that entity, mind made, conditioned mind movements, conditioned in such a way that they attack you continuously. And that’s the self that they have a relationship with. They would never live with a person like that. You would run out of the room. You couldn’t live with the person for more than a day. If somebody you lived with did that to you, what your self-image is doing to you through thought, you would have filed for divorce long ago. But you can’t do that because it’s your own mind and it walks with you. And there you have this complaining, and whining and accusing. [And you say to yourself] “Ah, get away.”
And a large part of that is because you’re identified with thought. There isn’t the ability to step back from thought and watch thought, watch that. And here, the mind-made entity, because that self that you have a relationship with is part of the story based self. The “me.”
That was the self that I had a very unpleasant relationship with for many years. I had an extremely painful relationship with myself. I couldn’t live with myself anymore. And so, I somehow said, “That’s it! I can't live with it anymore, that's it!” But that was so total, that I no longer sustained, fueled the self through thought. I didn’t know anything about it, it just happened. So the mind made image dissolved. The self that I couldn’t lived with, that was so heavy, dissolved. And what was left was simply, “I”. So the “I” shifted, whereas before when I said “I”, I was referring to my self, the unhappy “dense-I”, the “story-based-I” - that dissolved. Then the true “I” emerged (had always been there). Presence, I am, nothing in particular anymore.
A simple sense of Presence or Beingness. And for the first time I could walk and Be without having a relationship with myself. And that, there is something so precious in that “I” or Presence, so – it’s beyond words, you could say, it's like a diamond. It’s something that’s extremely, very-very precious.
That’s why perhaps Buddhists have the image of a diamond. But this is not comparative. It’s a sense of that deepest Self, not the mind made self. It’s so precious, it knows itself to be that in a non-dualistic way, without needing to compare itself to others. It has nothing to do with a form, or any mind form. As Presence arises, you don’t need self-esteem anymore, you don’t depend on that any more, because what dissolves is the mind-made-entity, with which you have a relationship.
And its so, self-esteem is an intermediate thing that for a little while makes your life more pleasant, and then after awhile you see the unsatisfactory nature even of that because you cannot uphold continuous self-esteem, its hard work, all these affirmations. And then things come into your life that tell you the opposite [about yourself], inevitably, sooner or later.
So, then suddenly [when you go beyond mind made self-esteem] you don’t love your self any more, nor do you hate yourself, because there’s no self to love [or hate]. There’s simply the state of Bliss, which is love. It emanates. But you don’t create a fiction that now you have a good relationship, and love. So that is moving beyond self-esteem.
And now we see why the Dalai Lama couldn’t understand. He only learned about self-esteem from Westerners who have a highly developed mind, and ego. Others also have ego, but even more developed in the West, perhaps. But he was surrounded by, perhaps by monks, and not quite as highly developed mental image. And perhaps he himself never had it. I don’t know. But anyway it was new to him.
Eckhart: Yes, self-esteem. Many people seem to have a problem with that - lack of self-esteem.
I read a while ago, when the Dalai Lama was younger he was meeting with a group of Westerners and they were talking about lack of self-esteem, and he just couldn’t understand that, what that was. And they tried to explain it, and then he went around the group and asked everybody, “do you have that?” And most people said, “Yes.” [And the Dalai Lama said,] “Oh, very strange, self-esteem”.
Now the human species is the only species on the planet, of course, that has a relationship with itself. Where [when] you have a relationship with yourself - that’s normal. But the cat doesn’t have a relationship with itself. Or the bird doesn’t have a relationship with itself. Or the tree doesn’t. So, birds, cats, trees, monkeys, flowers none of them have a problem with self-esteem. And even the most ugly looking cat wouldn’t have a problem with self-esteem. It hasn’t created a secondary, an “image self” - mind created. And once that’s created it walks with you, next to you, or behind you, or wherever it is. You always walk with a mental image of “me” and you have a relationship with that. And, often you don’t like what you see. That “image-self.”
That’s poor self-esteem. And then you may be in conflict with it. You may be talking to your self in the head. Telling your self something about yourself. Some people talk to themselves in the first person, buy many more people talk to themselves in the second person, as “you”. [For example:] “You see.” “You failed again.” “You see, you’re not as good as…” “You see, you...” “Why can’t you...?”
And then at times, the self feels suddenly great about itself. Some people predominately have low self-esteem, in other words, feel bad about the mind made image “me” [“little me”], feel bad about that. And then realize that, some realization comes in when they realize it is mind created. And they realize, and usually in the West, it’s connected with New Age teachings, and they realize they can do something about their bad self-esteem, their image. You can actually change your thinking about yourself.
First you discover that the thinking about yourself is predominately, or to a large extent, negative and then you see a little bit of Presence is arising. It must be, because you’re able to stand back a little bit and watch and see what you’re creating with your thoughts. And then the possibility comes of changing your thoughts and self-esteem - through workshops, affirmations, visualization, and all those practices. And then after awhile that image looks a little bit more [enhanced], and you feel more comfortable with that thing walking along side you.
But since everything in form, all mind creations, thoughts are subject to polarities, you can’t walk with a high [sense of self] continuously, with high self-esteem and feel great about your self, there’s always a polarity to it, and its usually bound up with what happens or not-happens in your life, what feedback you’re getting from others. And it is usually comparative, the self-esteem is comparative.
[You ask yourself] How do I rate myself in relation to others? And that gives you an indication where you are on 1 to 10, or whatever it may be. So, self-esteem is connected with the mind made “me”, lack of it, or in good self-esteem [the enhancement of it]. But it exists in polarities: if you spend a whole year affirming continuously, “I love myself, I love myself”, and maybe until now you hated yourself. Your house is full of little stickers, and wherever you look you see, “I love myself”, and you look in a mirror and look into your eyes and repeat that, “I love myself.”
To some extent it works, to some extent. You have a better relationship with your self. But there’s always a down side. It’s hard to sustain that, because the other polarity will manifest also in your life. And you go through life, when in order to know how you feel about yourself, you need to compare yourself with others. And then you say, “Oh, I’m actually better looking that this person, and so I feel quite good about myself.” “I’m actually much more educated that that person, and I feel good about that.” Or whatever you can get. “Well, this person is ill and I’m healthy, so that’s good.”
[What] you need for self-esteem, if you look, you need relativity. So you need comparison. And ego is always comparing itself.
Is it possible to live without having a relationship with yourself, neither good nor bad? It is possible to be so completely your self that the mind made image of me, dissolves?
And yes, this is why we’re here [at the retreat in India, or reading his book, or reading this]. This is the essence of our gathering. The mind made image is connected to thought, to continuous thinking. It’s fueled by, perpetuated by, upheld by the continuous thought processes many of which are about “me”, and my “self.” And so through thought I have a relationship with a thought made entity, which sometimes feels quite comfortable and sometimes feels not pleasant, I don’t want to live with that person. And of course, it’s true, many people live with a self that is very unpleasant, that creates a lot of problems, a lot of suffering, that continuously criticizes them, that continuously blames them, that tells them they’re not [good] enough. And they live with that entity, mind made, conditioned mind movements, conditioned in such a way that they attack you continuously. And that’s the self that they have a relationship with. They would never live with a person like that. You would run out of the room. You couldn’t live with the person for more than a day. If somebody you lived with did that to you, what your self-image is doing to you through thought, you would have filed for divorce long ago. But you can’t do that because it’s your own mind and it walks with you. And there you have this complaining, and whining and accusing. [And you say to yourself] “Ah, get away.”
And a large part of that is because you’re identified with thought. There isn’t the ability to step back from thought and watch thought, watch that. And here, the mind-made entity, because that self that you have a relationship with is part of the story based self. The “me.”
That was the self that I had a very unpleasant relationship with for many years. I had an extremely painful relationship with myself. I couldn’t live with myself anymore. And so, I somehow said, “That’s it! I can't live with it anymore, that's it!” But that was so total, that I no longer sustained, fueled the self through thought. I didn’t know anything about it, it just happened. So the mind made image dissolved. The self that I couldn’t lived with, that was so heavy, dissolved. And what was left was simply, “I”. So the “I” shifted, whereas before when I said “I”, I was referring to my self, the unhappy “dense-I”, the “story-based-I” - that dissolved. Then the true “I” emerged (had always been there). Presence, I am, nothing in particular anymore.
A simple sense of Presence or Beingness. And for the first time I could walk and Be without having a relationship with myself. And that, there is something so precious in that “I” or Presence, so – it’s beyond words, you could say, it's like a diamond. It’s something that’s extremely, very-very precious.
That’s why perhaps Buddhists have the image of a diamond. But this is not comparative. It’s a sense of that deepest Self, not the mind made self. It’s so precious, it knows itself to be that in a non-dualistic way, without needing to compare itself to others. It has nothing to do with a form, or any mind form. As Presence arises, you don’t need self-esteem anymore, you don’t depend on that any more, because what dissolves is the mind-made-entity, with which you have a relationship.
And its so, self-esteem is an intermediate thing that for a little while makes your life more pleasant, and then after awhile you see the unsatisfactory nature even of that because you cannot uphold continuous self-esteem, its hard work, all these affirmations. And then things come into your life that tell you the opposite [about yourself], inevitably, sooner or later.
So, then suddenly [when you go beyond mind made self-esteem] you don’t love your self any more, nor do you hate yourself, because there’s no self to love [or hate]. There’s simply the state of Bliss, which is love. It emanates. But you don’t create a fiction that now you have a good relationship, and love. So that is moving beyond self-esteem.
And now we see why the Dalai Lama couldn’t understand. He only learned about self-esteem from Westerners who have a highly developed mind, and ego. Others also have ego, but even more developed in the West, perhaps. But he was surrounded by, perhaps by monks, and not quite as highly developed mental image. And perhaps he himself never had it. I don’t know. But anyway it was new to him.
And I write about it in the book. There’s a paragraph in there. The end of having a relationship with yourself. You don’t need to arrange certain thoughts in your head that you feel good about. So self-esteem is replaced by something that is deeper and more real.
Wednesday, February 12, 2014
Tinderitis
I've been on tinder a way whole lot lately. Because I'm single. I like it. There are much more attractive guys on Tinder than any other dating website I've been on. That's probably the main perk for me. While using Tinder, I've noticed that there are recognizable patterns I tend to see in certain guys on it, and I would like to share some of the types and subtypes of males I have noticed while using this app. There are many more types, but these are the ones that stuck out to me the most (and I almost put up screen shots, but then I felt guilty. . . ).
Type A:
This type is my least favorite. Can I just start with my least favorite guy? I think I will. This guy is wearing an Aeropostale shirt in at least one of his pictures. He also probably doesn't have many pictures. If he does, they aren't very good ones. As in they're blurry, perhaps with him making awkward faces and looking a little lost. Why do I hate this guy? Because why would anyone wear a shirt advertising a clothing STORE? This may just be my personal preference, but I go to great lengths to avoid Aeropostale shirts, and it's an automatic red flag for me when I see one. Unless you work for the company or you own it, don't wear a shirt that advertises for a store. !!!.
Type B:
This guy only has one picture up. The only problem is, it's not of him. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO LIKE YOU IF I CAN'T EVEN SEE YOU???
Type C:
The guy that's still married and has pictures of his family up. WHY ARE YOU ON TINDER???
Type D:
This is the guy who has a picture with his shirt off. I love and hate this guy. I think he's hot. But I judge myself for thinking he's hot. I kind of wish he wouldn't use sex appeal to get attention, but then, Tinder is based on looks. So this guy confuses me to no end. I don't know what to think. I typically swipe left because I don't know how to feel about him.
Type B1: This guy usually has his shirt off at the beach. I accept this, and feel comfortable swiping right if I am attracted to him. He has an excuse for the amount of skin being shown. Don't get me wrong, I'm a feminist and I think it's fine to show skin, but I just don't want to date a guy who walks around with his shirt off all the time, which could be interpreted to be the case from all those shirtless photos being put up.
Type E:
This type usually has a picture with lots of guns, and maybe some farm animals. I think he's interesting, but I don't want to live on the farm. Also, just looking at his photos makes me feel like I can smell manure from the horses/cows/chickens/whatever. I like animals, don't get me wrong, this dude just isn't my type. Plus, he can often be found wearing a shirt with "Aeropostale" plastered all over the front of it.
Type F:
This guy has a ton of tattoos and quite a few pics of him drinking. Aside from the assumption that he's drunk all the time, I find this guy attractive, although very dark. He may also be seen smoking a variety of things, and wearing beanies with dark skinny jeans and t-shirts or hoodies. I kind of like dark people, I am just as attracted to a badass guy as the next girl, but the relationships usually don't go well. At least not for me. Anyway. Whatever. I'm not bitter!
Type G:
This is the jock. Most of his pictures involve him playing some sport. He might be rock climbing. The tough thing is, it's hard to see his face in all those pictures. He's always running or something, SO I can't really tell what he looks like.
Type H:
This is the guy who thinks he's fly, but he's really poorly dressed and not that cute. He's way excited about life. Occasionally he can be attractive, and I don't mind throwing in a few swipes to the right on one of these, no siree. As long as he's positive, he's probably go far. And they're usually really sweet.
Type I:
These are the guys who are trying to be hipsters, but aren't quite making it. Maybe they're work in finance. Maybe they're studying medicine (not that doctors can't be hipsters, but I'm not so sure about accountants). Their photos are kind of interesting, but they don't quite hit the mark. Everything they do has to be really organized and logical. These can be really great guys, super loyal and reliable. I'll give them a swipe right, but usually not without some hesitation. Again, bad experience with this type. Tooootally not bitter.
Type J:
This is the last. This is the hipster. I know, people don't like being called that, but let's just try and be real here. That's what they are. All his pictures are really cool. some might be black and white, some of his pictures are film. He looks like my dad when he was young (and my dad was pretty good lookin') He's probably in a band, or has a photo of him painting some abstract stuff. He's usually very attractive, or if he's not, he knows how to make himself look good and highlight his good qualities. He's probably working on an album or novel, or he might be a graphic designer. This is the guy I swipe right on with all my might, and who I rarely get a match with. He may be arrogant, but. . . Yeah I don't know why I fall so hard for that. But I tell you what, if you can find one of these guys who isn't conceited, you've hit a veritable gold mine. Just hope he swiped right on you!
**Everything in this post is my personal opinion. I know it might be different from yours, and that's probably OK.
Type A:
This type is my least favorite. Can I just start with my least favorite guy? I think I will. This guy is wearing an Aeropostale shirt in at least one of his pictures. He also probably doesn't have many pictures. If he does, they aren't very good ones. As in they're blurry, perhaps with him making awkward faces and looking a little lost. Why do I hate this guy? Because why would anyone wear a shirt advertising a clothing STORE? This may just be my personal preference, but I go to great lengths to avoid Aeropostale shirts, and it's an automatic red flag for me when I see one. Unless you work for the company or you own it, don't wear a shirt that advertises for a store. !!!.
Type B:
This guy only has one picture up. The only problem is, it's not of him. HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO LIKE YOU IF I CAN'T EVEN SEE YOU???
Type C:
The guy that's still married and has pictures of his family up. WHY ARE YOU ON TINDER???
Type D:
This is the guy who has a picture with his shirt off. I love and hate this guy. I think he's hot. But I judge myself for thinking he's hot. I kind of wish he wouldn't use sex appeal to get attention, but then, Tinder is based on looks. So this guy confuses me to no end. I don't know what to think. I typically swipe left because I don't know how to feel about him.
Type B1: This guy usually has his shirt off at the beach. I accept this, and feel comfortable swiping right if I am attracted to him. He has an excuse for the amount of skin being shown. Don't get me wrong, I'm a feminist and I think it's fine to show skin, but I just don't want to date a guy who walks around with his shirt off all the time, which could be interpreted to be the case from all those shirtless photos being put up.
Type E:
This type usually has a picture with lots of guns, and maybe some farm animals. I think he's interesting, but I don't want to live on the farm. Also, just looking at his photos makes me feel like I can smell manure from the horses/cows/chickens/whatever. I like animals, don't get me wrong, this dude just isn't my type. Plus, he can often be found wearing a shirt with "Aeropostale" plastered all over the front of it.
Type F:
This guy has a ton of tattoos and quite a few pics of him drinking. Aside from the assumption that he's drunk all the time, I find this guy attractive, although very dark. He may also be seen smoking a variety of things, and wearing beanies with dark skinny jeans and t-shirts or hoodies. I kind of like dark people, I am just as attracted to a badass guy as the next girl, but the relationships usually don't go well. At least not for me. Anyway. Whatever. I'm not bitter!
Type G:
This is the jock. Most of his pictures involve him playing some sport. He might be rock climbing. The tough thing is, it's hard to see his face in all those pictures. He's always running or something, SO I can't really tell what he looks like.
Type H:
This is the guy who thinks he's fly, but he's really poorly dressed and not that cute. He's way excited about life. Occasionally he can be attractive, and I don't mind throwing in a few swipes to the right on one of these, no siree. As long as he's positive, he's probably go far. And they're usually really sweet.
Type I:
These are the guys who are trying to be hipsters, but aren't quite making it. Maybe they're work in finance. Maybe they're studying medicine (not that doctors can't be hipsters, but I'm not so sure about accountants). Their photos are kind of interesting, but they don't quite hit the mark. Everything they do has to be really organized and logical. These can be really great guys, super loyal and reliable. I'll give them a swipe right, but usually not without some hesitation. Again, bad experience with this type. Tooootally not bitter.
Type J:
This is the last. This is the hipster. I know, people don't like being called that, but let's just try and be real here. That's what they are. All his pictures are really cool. some might be black and white, some of his pictures are film. He looks like my dad when he was young (and my dad was pretty good lookin') He's probably in a band, or has a photo of him painting some abstract stuff. He's usually very attractive, or if he's not, he knows how to make himself look good and highlight his good qualities. He's probably working on an album or novel, or he might be a graphic designer. This is the guy I swipe right on with all my might, and who I rarely get a match with. He may be arrogant, but. . . Yeah I don't know why I fall so hard for that. But I tell you what, if you can find one of these guys who isn't conceited, you've hit a veritable gold mine. Just hope he swiped right on you!
**Everything in this post is my personal opinion. I know it might be different from yours, and that's probably OK.
Monday, December 2, 2013
Salt Flats
Salt as far as the eye can see. This stuff is really hard too. Walking on it doesn't leave a footprint.
Here I stopped on the side of the road to look at the lake. I didn't realize I would pass it by on my way to the flats. The rocks were covered in salt, there was just a filmy white layer of salt all around them. It was pretty. My dad asked if it smelled, but surprisingly it didn't.
Here you can see the encrusted salt a bit better. It fell right off if you banged the rock.
Have a great week!
People
Something I've been thinking about lately is how I tend to value people based on who they know or who they're friends with. I have realized how stupid it is. Just because someone has clicked or not clicked with certain people does not make them any better or worse. Just because 400 people wish them a happy birthday on Facebook doesn't mean they're cool or even nice. They could be terribly unpleasant, and just have lots of charisma. I don't care if you have truckloads of charisma, if you are selfish and mean I don't want to be around you. If you have 4000 friends I still won't want to be around you. Yet it seems some of the most manipulative (in a bad way) people have the most influence and friends, etc., just because they are annoyingly outgoing, have charisma to know how to get people to initially like them, and all the crap that goes along with that. And then there are the few who don't have many friends because they don't have that charisma, but they're smart and they are pure-hearted. They are kind, they care, they just don't need the attention and don't try to bring it to themselves. And yet I still think, oh this person must be cool because they're friends with so-and-so, or they aren't because they aren't friends with so-and-so.
That's pretty dumb.
I can't judge someone because they have a lot of friends or are friends with certain people. I know crappy people who fit into both of those categories. So how do I find out if someone is amazing? I guess I'll just have to get to know them myself. I don't believe any of the crap people tell me anymore.
That's pretty dumb.
I can't judge someone because they have a lot of friends or are friends with certain people. I know crappy people who fit into both of those categories. So how do I find out if someone is amazing? I guess I'll just have to get to know them myself. I don't believe any of the crap people tell me anymore.
Sunday, December 1, 2013
Vulnerability
I have seen this video several times in the past few years since it came out, but I watched it again today and it was so powerful and applicable to my own life. It was a good reminder to me of what I can do to achieve the level of connection I want with others; be vulnerable. Let go of control. Allow myself to be seen, etc. I pass this along to give anyone else a reminder of these things too. The way we will build a good society, as she says, is realizing we are all imperfect, but deserving of love anyway. So much more can be achieved when we really believe we and those around us are good enough, instead of shaming each other and manipulating each other with fear. Enjoy!
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